Are We Raising Lazy Kids? by Sally Burgess, Forefront Families LLC
Sally Burgess, Forefront Families LLC
Are We Raising Lazy Kids?
by Sally Burgess, Forefront Families LLC
I saw a Face Book entry yesterday that went like this:
Dad: "Sarah, I am going to wash dishes and get the dinner ready. Could you sweep the kitchen floor?"
Sarah: "No, Dad. Sweeping is not my thing." And she walked out the door.
Obviously, something is very wrong with this picture! Should kids like Sarah, be routinely doing chores at home? Yes! Absolutely! How else will our children learn how to manage their own households as adults?
An effective parent:
followed by dinner, an hour to do what I want, and then off to bed.
end goal e.g. putting toys away, washing the car, creating a meal, growing and
tending a garden.
how we can best serve each other. Doing chores, especially without being
asked, is a sign of respect for others.
My husband, Brian, has supervised in the school cafeteria in the past, and occasionally would ask a child to pick up trash that another child had left behind. He would often get the retort, "I didn't put it there. I am not picking it up!" Wrong answer!
Where do we start?
straighten their beds.
That means both parents and kids are busy with household chores. Your kids
are not going to do a perfect job immediately, so be careful to encourage rather
than chide them on their early attempts at new chores.
tasks as they are able.
to spend a little more time doing something they particularly enjoy e.g. they get
to be Queen or King for the day and can choose the meal they want for dinner.
equipped with all the skills necessary by the time they leave home to lead an
I know that sometimes we think we can get the job done faster if we do it ourselves. We find ourselves doing things because we can't stand our kids' protests. I must confess I have fallen into that trap my self. However, it doesn't prepare our kids to be great homemakers and role models for their children. Start them doing chores when they are very young and give them lots of encouragement about how their contribution to the family is making a real difference. They are much more likely then to be happy to do their part rather than protesting.
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