IT’S BACK TO SCHOOL AGAIN
by Brian Burgess, Forefront Families LLC
This time of the year is fraught with the whole spectrum of emotions as kids return to school, or the tiny ones start school for the first time. There are going to be mothers, and some fathers, who feel remorse and may cry to see their off-spring boarding a school bus or walking off to school for the first time. Perhaps you wait in the car line to see them go through the front door of the school building while holding everyone else up behind you.
Then there will be those at the other extreme who can’t wait to see their child finally return to school and will shout, “Hallelujah!” or give a heave-ho of the arms and scream, “Yesssss!” as they disappear into the bowels of the school.
Now I’m not suggesting in the least that the latter group don’t love their kids. I’m purporting that for some parents, especially single parents, they’ve had a nightmare organizing activities and care for their children through the long summer months of vacation. Bored kids, sibling rivalry, awful heat and frayed nerves sometimes experienced over the summer break may well wear you down.
Some kids can’t wait to get back to school to see their friends and to learn for another semester. Some kids who have negative experiences about school may dread the return date, and yet others just roll with the tide.
Yes, there ahead of us is certainly the full range of realized and unrealized feelings! Whatever your state of mind is, it really doesn’t matter. The fact is that soon, if not already, your kids will be back in school.
Think about these things:
Have you prepared your children well for this next short phase of their lives?
- Are they equipped personally with skills to make the most of their education? Have you decided to be totally positive about your children’s school experience?
- Have you put strong routines in place to ensure they get enough rest, as well as time for homework, chores and free time. Do your children have a quiet place to study?
- Have you reviewed your stance on things that maybe didn’t go so well last semester?
- Have you talked about their personal responsibility in all matters at school?
- Have you discussed the need for them to tell you if they get bullied or things are not going well for them?
- Have you developed open lines of communication with their teachers to be aware of how your children are doing?
My caution to you as an educator over the last 40 plus years, however, is for you to encourage your child to do their best, and not expect them to be the best. Not everyone can be the best! Not every child can academically score an A or a B in every subject. You should, though, expect an A or B for ‘Effort’.
Ask their teachers what potential and gifting they see in your children. Sometimes our close proximity to them blinds us as to their potential and abilities.
What are you going to do with your newfound freedom? Relax? Put your feet up? Enjoy coffee with your friends? If you are employed, you are assured that you won’t have to worry what to do with your children over the next few months. The school and its hard working teachers, administrators and staff are excited about the opportunities they have to work with the students assigned to them. Believe me, we do get excited about the privilege we have to speak into your kids’ lives and support you in the quest we all have to create amazing adults who can change the world.
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