Take a moment to imagine the relationship you have with people around you. What's it like? Each individual person has their own personality just like each book has its own story; its own plot.
But since deer hunters consistently go to and from their tree stand in the dark; if the neighbor or the local farmer has a dog, it will inevitably locate your movement and proceed to let the whole county know you are there.
How can we encourage our kids to meet our behavioral expectations? First of all we have to spell out what these expectations are. Having done that we have to look carefully at how we behave and change accordingly.