From experience, I can tell you there are times we don't pray because we are too uncomfortable and convicted to pray. I remember a time when I had become the prodigal. Although I was still a believing Christian, I didn't want to read the Bible, or pray, because every time I did, I'd think, "Why am I doing this? I'm not living right."
Negative parenting arises when we constantly nag and correct children. It's really important how a directive or comment is said. You can make it positive or negative by the tone you use or by reconstructing the directive.
Truth is, grace is conditional. Forgiving love is possible only because an important condition has been met. Because of His great love for us, Christ has satisfied the righteous requirements of God's Law (Romans 5:19; 7:6).